Watching an interview on the cricket coverage, there was an interview with a competitor, and they were discussing fund raising and the great efforts being undertaken. A great interview and a great cause, then the interviewee then said ‘obviously! this is for insert benefiter here”.Continue reading
I was scrolling through Instagram a while back and a thought came to me. For all the inspiration being shared, goals and aspirations etc. I realised that more often or not that a contributor will tell me ‘I should’ it will be fantastic and that ‘I can do it’.
That’s so cool………. Uh…… Hang on……..
But hang on for a minute, they are not me, they don’t know my story, who I am, where I’m at etc. How could they possibly know what’s good for me?
The thought that keeps circling for me, could this be a subtle form of projection. Where an individual attributes characteristics in themselves to another person.
Psychological Projection can often be thought of as a defence mechanism to cope with complex emotions. I’m not thinking here that there is some negative or defensible action.
Projection, there are a few variations (not limited to): [a]
- Complementary projection occurs when individuals assume others feel the same way they do. For example, a person with a particular political persuasion might take it for granted that friends and family members share those beliefs.
- Complimentary projection is the assumption other people can do the same things as well as oneself. For example, an accomplished pianist might take it for granted that other piano students can play the piano equally well.
When we think of sharing (i.e. content on Instagram or Facebook, or in person etc.) are we trying to connect with a person where they are at or being a bit perhaps presumptuous that they are where we are at (and of course that we know the truth of them).
If we think the latter, then perhaps we’re not thinking of them as a person (an object instead). If we were to think of another as a person our mindset moves to a place to consider different things in them.
Person or Object?
I ask this question of myself simply because if my mind moves to assume a person is a object then I’m probably simply thinking of myself as that’s likely to be the first things that pop into my mind. My immediate vicinity. Perhaps that thinking is more like an object or at least similar/identical to me.
When I start thinking deeper about that person/s, I think of their situation, how they are different, their families, ethnicity, culture, location, financial situation, troubles and trials, celebrations, travel, introverted or extraverted, skills and capabilities and so on. I’m thinking much deeper and there I think more of them. I’m thinking they are more human than ever.
If I’m thinking of them as more human and a deeper person, Surely, I’m going to treat them differently too.
When we Insta-Project we can ask ourselves the question are we really treating others as people?
So, when I go the ‘you should’, perhaps I really need to hold my breath, reflect and reframe.
Perhaps instead, “I tried XYZ and had a great result, it might not get you the same result, perhaps try and see for yourself, it might”.
I know I’ve Insta-Projected, so the call is much on myself as it is for others to think through too. Give it some thought, you might agree, you might not.
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Discovery is an activity that happens every day. It’s not only for the adventurer finding new secrets and artefacts in the Himalayas or the scientist diving to the depths of the ocean to find a new species.Continue reading
It’s possibly a common mantra in this day and age to set goals. To have something to aspire to helps with motivation and in turn provides feedback and a metric to know that we got there.
Goals are a great idea, for all those reasons above, boo yah!!!
However, what if my goal was to master my craft and become a manager? What happens after you’ve become a manager. The goal is complete, it was a jolly big goal, so what next? Once the metric has been achieved what do we then feel?Continue reading
This past week has been inspiring for many as we witnessed Lady Gaga win the Oscar for Best Original song. She won the award for her popular song ‘Shallow’. Throughout the media the fanfare has seen coverage of the award reach all over the world. Further, this excitement has been celebrated that much more due to her speech which many feel to be even more inspiring, epic, encouraging, and hopeful.
One notable part of her acceptance speech resonated with one and all.
“And if you are at home, and you’re sitting on your couch and you’re watching this right now, all I have to say is that this is hard work. I’ve worked hard for a long time, and it’s not about, you know…it’s not about winning. But what it’s about is not giving up. If you have a dream, fight for it. There’s a discipline for passion. And it’s not about how many times you get rejected or you fall down, or you’re beaten up. It’s about how many times you stand up and are brave and you keep on going. Thank you!”
Just listening to these words, seeing the media coverage and celebration, I want in and with such words being said…. I can be like that too!! And the secret as Lady Gaga has revealed to us all, we have to work hard and not give up.Continue reading
Have you been direct?
Have you been encouraging? Continue reading
Recently I’ve noticed that I make a lot of assumptions and surprisingly some of them can be very small indeed. I noticed this especially when I saw a street sign; I completely misunderstood its meaning. The sign was for a café and I thought it was indicating an arrow for where to park. Continue reading
I’m standing at the top of a gorge and yell out “Cooee” and in anticipation I wait for the echo…… nothing. Usually I hear my call out back as an echo. I straighten myself out and stand tall and yell out even louder “Cooee”. A short wait and yet I hear nothing. I’m getting frustrated now and I shout even louder as my lungs feel like they are going to burst “COOEE, COOEE, COOEE” exasperated I wait and still I hear nothing, not a glimmer not even a faint hint of a returning voice. What happened to my echo? Where did it go? Continue reading
Everyday communication takes place between us, an aspect of that communication is dealing with compliments and criticism.
A colleague and I had an encounter that confused us, and I’m thinking the expression Negative Compliment (on the surface) seems to describe the situation. Continue reading
Driving along a road to nowhere in particular, there are signs with a number surrounded by a red ring, they are speed limits. And according to the laws of the land they are a safe recommended maximum speed to travel at. What do you do? Travel at that speed or ignore it and perhaps travel faster. Continue reading